Today is the first of October; 60 days into my 90 day challenge and the end of my self-imposed period of being single.
There have still been a lot of ups and downs, but I’ve learnt so much. Now is the time to really focus on putting it all into practice.
These are the things I will be practising for the next month (and probably for the rest of my life):
-Not indulging in thoughts that will cause me to spiral into destructive thinking/acting.
-Getting my emotions under control before they take over.
-Not acting based on my emotions, but on my values.
-Changing the language I use with myself.
-When I get into a low mood, consciously work to change it, while reminding myself that it will pass.
-Reminding myself that being alone sometimes won’t kill me, doesn’t mean I’m a failure as a human, and is actually necessary for my own well being.
-Being aware of my triggers, and using rational thought to counteract them.
-Not having expectations about people or situations, or if I do, to not rigidly stick to them.
-Calming myself down when I become anxious so that I am able to formulate a solution to whatever it was that caused the anxiety.
-Being happy for others, and for myself.
-Acting based on what is best for me and others, and not what the selfish child in me wants.
-Making decisions and learning to trust myself.
-Nurturing my interests, hobbies and friendships.
-Not relying on a partner for all my emotional needs or to solve my problems.
-Empathising with others so that I may understand their actions, and be more forgiving.
-Being flexible to change and not being attached to a certain situation.
-Realising that happiness is not meant to be a constant state and to be content with and grateful for the moments of bliss that I am gifted with.
There is probably more, but that is a pretty long list already and a lot to work on. I am confident that I will get there, maybe not within the 90 days, but eventually. Everyday I get a little closer, even taking my steps backward into account.
I think I’m on the home stretch 🙂